...A traveller on a journey...

Friday, August 05, 2005

I thot of sharing this email below which i received from a well meaning colleague last week. It was sent to me and another colleague who's also married for quite a while with no children yet. However, the impression that she's been giving, is that she doesn't want children as that was her reply everytime she's asked abt it. I don't know if this is the truth or she could be feeling tired too having to answer this kinda questions endlessly? So could be she felt this is the "best" reply she could give to make them stop asking this kind of questions all the time. However, this other colleague of ours (who sent tis email) seems very worried that she might "influence" me into not having children. i thought that was really cute and sweet of him to actually trouble himself into writing such a long email to the both of us. When i first read it, i felt a little pressurised and angry, especially with the last paragraph of the email. But then again this comes from someone with a very good heart and well-liked by everyone, someone whom i know meant well and i couldn't blame him coz he doesn't know the problems we have and I can't go around telling everyone about these things too rite..hehe..So i took it in a positive way, afterall working with him for almost 5yrs, i know he's not the sort who would hurt others. I guess he was just being concerned for us. Lagipon mana nak cari kolig macam ni, who would bother to write such a long email to us despite his heavy workload. Here's his email to the both of us:

"Hi, my dear good colleagues and good friends

You may not want to say it openly, but I know in your heart of hearts you will be cursing me and wondering why I am so kah poh, always poking my nose into other people's personal life, prying into other people's private affairs. But I must tell you that whatever I have said, am still saying and will no doubt continue to say are all done out of a genuine desire on my part to share with you what I think is the ultimate joy of a fuller and more complete family life for a married couple - having children!

The joy that children bring with them is something which nothing else can substitute, even with all the money in the world. And you must do it while you still can. For ladies, the window of opportunity is small and gets narrower and narrower with age. Don't forget that time flies, and before you even know it, that opportunity may well be out of the door, not just the window, and for good. When the window of opportunity slams shut, that's it. No amount of strength will force it open ever again.

People nowadays worry over this and that, about the effects that child-bearing will have on their figure, about child-care arrangements, career prospects, children's education, etc. To me, these are all unnecessary worries. Do you honestly believe that our own mothers did not have to travel that same road of agony, pain, sacrifice and frustration that present-day mothers face, that they had had a much easier and less stressful time? In fact, what they had to go through are many fold worse, having to go through it not once but many times, depending on the number of children they had, which, in the majority of cases, were by the dozen, like my own mother's mother who had 15! I always believe that things have an amazing way of working themselves out. Solutions will somehow present themselves. Human ingenuity is such that it will take care of the quirks of life.

I hope this will convince you that you should go forth and multiply and not worry yourself unduly and unnecessarily. Don't let your hubby wait for too long. Otherwise, you may wake up one fine day to discover that he has already made off with someone else who is willing to bear him the children he wants. When that time comes, you will have endless worries and they will all be in vain because he will not want to hear of it from you anymore because there won't be a need to. Is this prospect not scary enough to nudge you into action? If this doesn't, I don't know what will.

May God bless you both and both your hubbies too!

With all best wishes
Regards
Busybody XXX!"

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